How do I deal with a father in law who is constantly rude or just ignores me at family functions/visits?
My Husband and I have been together for long time and we have a child together.. and it always affected me because I know he doesn't approve of me because I don't make loads of money and he see me as not good enough for his son.
Since our son was born he held him once and when asked if he would like to hold his grandson he says no. At family visit it the most unwelcoming and uncomfortable thing ever but I just deal with it because I love my husband.
He will say hello to me and that's it, he wont ask me about his grandson. Which you think would be a easy topic to talk about if he had any interest in trying to build a relationship with myself and his grandson. Unfortunately it me always trying to have a conversation.. but if I ask a question it a one word answer. I tried to get involved in a conversations others are having with him and he ignores my input or will response to the other person.
I've lost my confidence in this situation with my father in law and just given up trying... and the fact he doesn't really involve himself with his grandson who is nearly 1 has been something that really put me into a negative frame of mind. My husband did try talk to him couple of years back when he didn't congratulate us on getting engaged then married and again recently but nothing changed. My poor husband and his friends have all told me he a difficult man to get to know. My Husband tells me to keep trying but I can see it upset him.. when his own dad doesn't show much interested in our son and his wife.
I guess I just want to hear from other Women/Mums who have been through something similar and what worked for you to improve a situation like this? Without destroying relationships.
I've started becoming socially awkward at times because I started getting anxiety in social settings when put in situations like family dinners with the in laws.